Affirming therapy for queer individuals and ethically non-monogamous couples
You’ve landed in the right place.
A space to pause, reflect, be real, and come home to yourself.
At Here We Are Therapy, you’re welcome just as you are. Whether you're feeling stuck, seeking connection (to yourself or others), or simply wanting to understand yourself more deeply.
Meet phil (he/him)
As a gay man and queer therapist in Vancouver, I know firsthand what it's like to navigate questions of identity, belonging, and relationships in a world that wasn't always built for us. Those experiences shape how I show up in the therapy room.
I'm a pre-licensed therapist completing my RCC and CCC designations (expected spring/summer ‘26). My approach is warm, curious, and collaborative. I'll ask thoughtful questions, offer reflections to spark new perspectives, and be your fellow traveller rather than an authority on your life. We'll get to know all the parts of you that have helped you get here, and explore what might help you get to where you want to be.
Whether you're navigating identity, relationship dynamics, anxiety, burnout, or simply a sense that something needs to shift, I'm here to help you move toward a life that feels more grounded, connected, and fully yours.
Therapy Services
I offer affirming therapy for queer individuals, LGBTQ+ communities, and ethically non-monogamous couples in Vancouver and across BC and Ontario. Whether you're navigating identity, relationship dynamics, anxiety, or burnout, therapy offers a space to be genuinely seen and understood, without having to explain yourself first.
Available in-person in Vancouver and virtually across BC and Ontario.
Queer Lived Experience
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Racial Justice Allied
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Trauma-Informed Care
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Queer Lived Experience 〰️ Racial Justice Allied 〰️ Trauma-Informed Care 〰️
THERAPEUTIC MODALITIES:
Internal Family Systems
Attachment-Based Therapy
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
Emotionally-Focused Therapy
Gottman Method
Individual Therapy
Deepen self-understanding, healing, and grow.
AREAS OF PRACTICE:
Anxiety and Depression
Stress and Burnout
Sexual and Gender Identity
Personal Growth
Relationships and Communication
Attachment Styles
Self-Esteem
LGBTQ+ Affirming Therapy
Relationship and Couples Therapy
Support for partners navigating connection, conflict, and change, together.
AREAS OF PRACTICE:
Communication
Conflict Management
Emotional intimacy and connection
Ethical Non-Monogamy (incl. polyamory)
Gender and Sexuality Issues
Navigating trust, betrayal, or ruptures
Queer and diverse relationship structures
Questions?
Taking the first step can be hard, and I’m here to support you. Fill out this form and I’ll be in touch shortly.
If you’re ready to book your free 20-minute consultation, click here.
“Vulnerability isn’t winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.
Vulnerability isn’t weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage.”
— Brené Brown, Author of Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection