A safe and structured space to understand your connection more deeply, break through patterns that no longer serve you, and build a thriving relationship.
A supportive space to understand your patterns, strengthen connection, and build a relationship that feels secure, responsive, and fulfilling.
While we may use the terms “relationship therapy” and “couples therapy,” Here We Are Therapy is inclusive of diverse relationship structures, including multiple-partner and ethically non-monogamous relationships.
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This work isn’t about assigning blame or “fixing” you or your partner(s). It’s about understanding how you interact, why certain patterns persist, and how you can shift toward connection, safety, and fulfilment. This process consists of an integrated research-driven approach (including Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy) and an affirming, culturally informed lens that honours diversity in gender, sexuality, and non-traditional relationship structures.
Together we can focus on:
Communication patterns and emotional responsiveness
Attachment patterns and emotional accessibility
Repairing ruptures and strengthening trust
Balancing individuality with intimacy
The initial session will include all partners to learn about the history of the relationship and everyone’s intentions for therapy. This is followed by one individual session for each partner where we learn more about your individual story and experience in the relationship. In the meantime, each partner completes the Gottman Relationship Checkup. We then come back together to discuss what we’ve been learning together about the strengths and challenges of the relationship, including sharing the results of the relationship checkup, and co-create a path forward to fostering a healthier version of the relationship.
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This work is for couples and partners who want to deepen connection, resolve conflict with understanding, and create healthier relational patterns. Whether you’re newly navigating a relationship, facing recurring conflict, transitioning phases, or seeking more aliveness and emotional safety, therapy can help you build the skills and insight that last.
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We start by creating space for all partners to be heard fully, without judgment or defensiveness. From there, we explore patterns of interaction, underlying emotional experiences, and relational needs that matter most to you. This work is both practical and heart-centred: you’ll gain tools for communication and repair, and also clarity about what you want from each other and your partnership.
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Change happens by helping partners move out of reactive conflict patterns and into emotionally safe, responsive connection. Therapy shifts the focus from the surface content of disagreements to the underlying interactional cycles and unmet attachment needs driving distress. As partners learn to recognize these patterns, regulate emotional overwhelm, and express vulnerability more clearly, blame softens and empathy increases. With greater emotional safety, couples can respond to each other with curiosity rather than defensiveness, repair ruptures more effectively, and build trust through consistent moments of emotional attunement and responsiveness.
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75-minute sessions are available both in-person and virtually at $210 (+GST) per session.
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We start with an free 20-minute virtual consultation to understand what you’re hoping to get out of therapy and answer any questions you have. You can book a free consultation here.